Jamelia On Overcoming An Abusive Relationship

Jamelia On Overcoming An Abusive Relationship

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It`s been a long ass time since we`ve heard any music from British R&B songstress Jamelia who has blessed us with three amazing albums in the course of her career, especially her “Thank You” album which is her highest charting and selling album to date. The album was beautifully crafted and featured some solid singles including the title track.

“Thank You” is her most personal and empowering song as it speaks about overcoming a very abusive relationship that broke her to the core as human being but she managed to rebuild herself into a stronger version of herself : ‘The thing with domestic abuse is it’s something you never get over. You can come to terms with it and forgive but the scars will always remain. For me, the best thing I could ever have done was to share my story – the best thing I could do was let other women know that they are not alone because that’s exactly how I felt. I felt as if no one would understand, no one would get it. I couldn’t tell anyone, I felt so embarrassed. For me, it is when my daughter was four weeks old and he hit me when I was breastfeeding her and it was at that point that I realised that being in a relationship is a choice and I am choosing this and I am going to continue to choose this on behalf of my child. Do I want this to be her reality? As scared as I was, I was completely fearful of being killed and I thought I’d much rather leave and risk him killing me, than stay with him and have my daughter watch him slowly kill me anyway.”

“Writing ‘Thank You’ was purely a therapeutic experience for me. After releasing the song and getting hundreds and hundreds of letters – from women and people affected by domestic abuse – that was the first time that I felt ‘this is not only me, I’m not the only person in this situation’.”

“My head, near dead, just the way you wanted it. My soul, stone cold cause I was under you’re control . So young, so dumb, knew just how to make me succumb but I understand to make yourself feel like a man, you hit, you spit, you split, ever-y bit of me, yeah. You stole, you broke, you’re cold, you’re such a joke to me….”


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